भिडियो हेर्न माथि क्लिक गर्नुहोस।
When we're first ready is going to vary a lot from person to person, based on our life experiences, our own needs, s**ual ethics and life goals, what we each need to feel ready, our s***al desires (or lack thereof) and what s***al activities we even have interest in at all or with a certain partner, and the unique situation and relationship. For some people, that will all fall into place when they're 15, for others, not until their twenties, and for some, even later than that.
And that doesn't just happen once. Just because I started having s***al partners in my early teens doesn't mean that I'm then always ready or interested in s*** with a partner now that I'm looking down the road at the age of 40. Sometimes in our lives the stresses of s*** may outweigh the benefits -- maybe we just already have too much on our plate to deal with risks of pregnancy, for instance, or to invest in the kind of communication and attention a s***al partner needs. Sometimes we have phases in our life where s*** just isn't that interesting, or a desire we're feeling very strongly. Sometimes the timing just doesn't feel right in a given relationship: we may still be evaluating that relationship and how we feel in it to decide if s*** is right for us and that relationship. Sometimes we just don't want s** with a certain person, period, even if we like or care for them in other respects.
You say you're eager, too, and if that has resulted in you bringing it up often when she's made clear she isn't ready, that is exerting a kind of pressure which can be pretty uncomfortable, and which can certainly incline us to be even more wary of s** with that partner. It can feel particularly weird to have a partner be so eager despite knowing we're not: someone still wanting s** with us when they know we don't want the same thing can make it feel like we're not really in the picture, and s** is really just about them, if you know what I mean.
If she's already made clear she's not ready, you can rest assured that if and when she changes her mind, she'll let you know. If you've already told her you're interested, she knows: no need to remind her. If you feel like you don't understand why she wants to hold off, you can certainly ask her about it. Just let her know that you respect her needs, and aren't asking to pressure her, but just feel like you want to understand better why she wants to wait and what she needs for s** to be right.
दाम्पत्य जीवन सुखी बनाउन यौनको मुख्य भूमिका हुन्छ । तर, महिलामा हुने यौनप्रतिको अरुचिले दाम्पत्य जीवनलाई नै जोखिममा पारेको उदाहरण प्रशस्त छन् । यौन अंगमा रक्तसञ्चार कम भए यौन अरुचि हुनसक्छ ।
मधुमेह र उच्च रक्तचापजस्ता रोगले रक्तसञ्चारमा कमी ल्याउने गर्छ । उमेर पुगेपछि महिनावारी रोकिने बेला, गर्भनिरोधक पिल्स खाँदा र थाइराइड सम्बन्धी समस्या देखापरेको वेला शरीरमा उत्पन्न हुने हार्मोनले यौन अनिच्छा निम्त्याउँछ । डिप्रेसन रोक्ने औषधीको सेवन अथवा किमोथेरापीले पनि अरुचि जाग्न सक्छ । त्यस्तै, गुप्तांगको शल्यक्रिया गर्दा नशा काटिएमा अथवा अनिद्रा र डिप्रेसन भएमा महिलालाई यौनप्रति अरुचि हुनसक्छ ।
यौन रुचि जगाउन के गर्ने ?
शरीरमा यौन उत्तेजना बढाउन एस्ट्रोजन अथवा टेस्टोस्टेरोन हार्मोन आवश्यक हुन्छ । यस्ता हार्मोन बढाउने औषधी सेवन गरेर समस्या समाधान गर्न सकिन्छ । यौनांगमा रक्त सञ्चार बढाउने औषधी पनि बजारमा पाइन्छ । चिकित्सकको सल्लाहमा यस्ता औषधी सेवन गर्न सकिन्छ । यसबाहेक, सेक्स थेरापिस्टको सेवा पनि लिन सकिन्छ । नियमित व्यायाम र सन्तुलित भोजन यौन रुचि जगाउन सहायक हुन्छन् । स्वास्थ्य खबरपत्रिकाले छापेको छ ।
